So it's a small thing, an almost immature issue. But yet, I'm sure that many of you have experienced the sadness of "losing" a best or close friend to the dating world. I know, I know, it sounds so dramatic. But it feels that way sometimes. It's always the same. You guys hang out all the time, you can talk to them, they understand you, they are there for you. And then comes that special someone. And it's not a bad thing, but all of the sudden they have someone who is in first place. And you get bumped down a small notch at first. But it's the feeling that there is someone else more important that really gets to you. And as they get closer together they call you less and less. You are now on the back burner my friend.
I talk about it like I'm an outsider, as if I were talking about it from a third person point of view. I wish it were so. It is happening to me. And I am happy for my friend, because it's a good thing. She is happy. He treats her well. And it's gotta happen eventually. So I think that's the hardest part. Knowing that I am so immature, so selfish. I only think of myself and the effects that it will have on me and my personal life. I wonder if any of you have been able to cope with a similar situation with a greater level of maturity.
I'm left wondering what is to be done? What can one do to remedy the situation? I feel so helpless. I feel that anything that i say would be purely selfish and inconsiderate. Dear classmates, you must be wiser than I. I am confident that one of you can help me to better cope with the current dilemma, as I feel so childish for my worry and frustration. When faced with the same situation, what have you done? What approach have you taken? Can it really be solved? Anyway, thanks for reading my pathetic little post. I know it's not about politics or current events or anything of any relevance in your lives, and if this were graded I'd probably get an F, but I guess I just need a little bit of advice, and our wonderful english class blog was the first place that came to mind. Comments will be greatly appreciated.
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I have been in similar dillemas in my own life. I only have two words of advice for you, BE HONEST. I think that you need to be honest with your friend, express how you really feel, if they are really your friend they will try to understand your point of view and be thankfull that you told them how you really feel. Its always hard when you feel like you have to compete for someones attention when you once didn't have to. Even more frusterating is feeling the need to compete for a friends attention. Talk to your friend, be honest and open, i am sure if the situation were flipped you would want a close friend to be honest with you right? Dont just walk away from your friend give it your all to mend the friendship you feel like you have lost.I know it can work out. If your friend wont consider your point of view, try and mend the situation, or care about losing your friendship then she might just risk loosing out on you as a best friend.
I almost forgot, also explain to your friend that you are happy for her, but that you dont want to be completely left behind and forgotten because she has a new special someone. In a way she is your special someone that gets you through it all. ;) Good Luck!
I Wish you the best
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